30 unique skills of Guiguzi to quickly improve interpersonal relationships and avoid detours in life

Course Catalog Ooka

Interpersonal Relationships

1. When life is not going well, remember this and you will be back to good times.

2. Learn this trick to get a head start on everything

3. The higher the level of a person, the more he will control his mouth.

4. Assess the power and ability of talents and employ them appropriately

5. Your failure may be due to ignoring details

6. A bad temper is one of the baser qualities of human nature

Emotional Intelligence in Life

7. Learn to use external forces to get things done perfectly without much effort.

8. A good general never fights a battle without preparation.

9. Don’t be too honest. Learn to use “fishing language”

10. People with high emotional intelligence can easily see through other people’s hearts.

11. Use reverse thinking to find the commanding heights of success

12. Manage people wisely and adopt different strategies for different people.

Workplace Practice

13. Learn to use the "inner-thread technique" to understand the other person's mind first

14. If you choose to do this, the road ahead will become wider and wider

15. How to get promoted quickly at work?

16. Make good use of emotional investment to build trusting relationships

17. Prevent problems before they happen and avoid risks in life

18. Be careful in what you say and do, and don’t be alienated by slander.

Advanced Thinking

19. Hit the snake at its weakest point and speak to the point

20. Don’t make excuses for failure, but find ways to succeed.

21. No one can depend on you forever. Only when you are strong can you be strong.

22. Compare repeatedly to find the best person for you

23. Assess the situation and obtain useful information

24. Borrow the power of others and stand on the shoulders of giants

Self-improvement

25. It is better to speak more than to speak well. Master the skills of speaking

26. Beware of these five words to avoid falling into other people’s “traps”

27. There are five taboos in socializing with people. The sooner you know them, the sooner you can avoid them.

28. Are all the people around you real friends?

29. Only by taking the initiative can you be one step ahead of others

30. Five methods that smart people often use to make decisions and resolve doubts

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People often ask me: What is the book that a person should not miss after turning 25?

I have only one answer: "Guiguzi".

Who is Guiguzi?

Guiguzi's real name was Wang Xu, also known as Wang Chan. Because he lived in seclusion in Guigu, he called himself "Mr. Guigu". The military strategists respected him as a "sage", the diplomats respected him as the "ancestor", the strategists respected him as the "saint of strategy", and the Taoists respected him as the "Ancestor Wang Chan".

30 unique skills of Guiguzi to quickly improve interpersonal relationships and avoid detours in life

The last sage to receive this honor was Confucius, the founder of Confucianism.

Some people may ask: If this is the case, why is Guiguzi less famous than Confucius?

It is a pity that in the Han Dynasty, the book Guiguzi was once listed as a banned book because it revealed the secrets of heaven and was feared by the rulers.

After being silent for two thousand years, it finally gained popularity again among later generations. 30 unique skills of Guiguzi to quickly improve interpersonal relationships and avoid detours in life

Rumor has it that Guiguzi only came down the mountain once in his life and accepted several disciples, including Su Qin, Zhang Yi, Sun Bin, Pang Juan, Shang Yang, and Li Si.

Before they became Guiguzi's disciples, they were all unknown people, but after Guiguzi's guidance, they all became brilliant and famous throughout the ages.

Pang Juan was honored when he met a sheep;

Sun Bin was invincible in battle; Su Qin wore the seals of six states;

Shang Yang and Li Si, one carried out reforms for Duke Xiaogong, and the other helped Qin Shihuang unify the country.

Today, the book Guiguzi is even more famous:

Former US Secretary of State Henry Kissinger, famous Japanese entrepreneur Takeo Ohashi, famous German historian Spengler and other world elites and celebrities have carefully studied Guiguzi's wisdom and spoke highly of him.

30 unique skills of Guiguzi to quickly improve interpersonal relationships and avoid detours in life

Why do elites and celebrities prefer Guiguzi among so many wonderful books in the world?

"That's because the wisdom of dealing with things, the truth of human nature, and the strategies of doing things that we have been exploring throughout our lives are all covered in Guiguzi!"

But it was not me who said this, but the person below. Although she has a young face, she has an "old literary soul". The "Guiguzi" she said is the most wonderful.

She is a post-90s beauty Chinese studies tutor

Beautiful appearance and gentle temperament, this is most people's first impression of Yuehan.

But if you get to know her more deeply, you will find that, unlike those pretty girls, she is proficient in the Four Books and the Five Classics, and knows all the classics of Chinese culture.

A cup of tea and a book are enough to help you spend an entire afternoon peacefully.

30 unique skills of Guiguzi to quickly improve interpersonal relationships and avoid detours in life

However, if you think she is just a beautiful woman with some education, you are underestimating her.

Yuehan, who graduated from Communication University of China, is a graduate of a formal professional school.

She has a rich background and speaks eloquently. The originally boring documentary immediately became vivid under her interpretation.

As a disseminator of Chinese culture, she works tirelessly on the front line, discussing ancient and modern times, quoting classics, and using her gentle voice to express the anecdotes of ancient and modern sages and the obscure ancient texts in simple words.

"As long as more people can discover the benefits of Chinese culture, it's worth it no matter how tired I am."

Although she has read many Chinese classics, Yuehan most recommends "Guiguzi".

Not only because this book reveals the true human nature and rare life wisdom; but also because this book really helped her out in the muddy real life.

A few years ago, when Yuehan first started to work as a self-media person on Chinese culture, she suffered a "Waterloo" in her career.

The video she released explaining Chinese culture not only failed to gain recognition from the audience, but also encountered unprecedented doubts:

"What kind of Chinese culture do girls learn in every household?"

"Your explanation is not thorough at all"; "How can you speak well when you are so young?"...

All kinds of bad reviews came at her, catching her off guard as she was inexperienced. Because of this, she couldn't eat or sleep at night. She couldn't understand why she had tried so hard but could only get such a ruthless attack?

When she was almost in despair, a sentence from Guiguzi woke her up:

The beginning of knowledge is to know oneself. Only after knowing oneself can one know others.

It is not difficult for people to know others, but it is difficult to know themselves. Only by examining yourself can you understand others.

Referring to the principle in Guiguzi, "If you want to be high, go down; if you want to take, give instead", Yuehan decided to face the "bad reviews" head-on:

Write down the audience's suggestions in a small notebook, think from the reader's perspective, and review the manuscript word by word;

Whenever I had time, I would go to the library to look up all kinds of Chinese studies books, and read all kinds of literature I could find;

Even giving lectures in front of a mirror and adjusting my body language…

Finally, eight months later, she picked herself up and planned a column on Weibo called "Art History" to explain Chinese studies. It became a hit on the entire Internet as soon as it was launched, with a total of 300 million views, becoming a phenomenal Chinese studies program.

Yuehan is also hailed by fans of Chinese studies as the "leader of Chinese studies for the post-90s generation." 30 unique skills of Guiguzi to quickly improve interpersonal relationships and avoid detours in life

In this way, relying on the wisdom and guidance left by Guiguzi, she made the right life choices time and time again.

But unfortunately, she found that whenever she recommended the "Guiguzi" series of books to others, they would shake their heads, simply because the original version was written entirely in classical Chinese, which was obscure and difficult to understand and tasteless.

But if we miss such a classic Chinese culture because of this, it would be a pity!

Therefore, Yuehan decided to sort out "Guiguzi" systematically and professionally by herself, and then spread it to more people in popular language.

This was no small project. She first bought a whole set of original books, internalized and absorbed them; then, she combined cutting-edge methods in historical studies to study the literature of nearly 20 Taoists and strategists, and worked hard on a manuscript of nearly one million words.

This research took 3 years.

Finally, it was sorted out into 30 unique ways of dealing with things that are easy to understand, learn and use. Unexpectedly, once it was released, it triggered a lot of hot comments.

What use is the unique way of dealing with things in Guiguzi to modern people?
Linlin, a rookie in the workplace, found that the situation was not good as soon as she entered a company. She was at a loss when faced with the interpersonal relationships and courtesy in the workplace, and suffered a lot of losses and was looked down upon.

Should I resign? Or should I continue to swallow my anger?
In the art of guessing people's emotions in Guiguzi, it is mentioned: "It is human nature that when they speak, they want to be heard, and when they do something, it will succeed."

If you want to be understood and accepted by others, the prerequisite is that you first learn to understand others and take the initiative in interpersonal relationships. Then why worry about being excluded?

After figuring this out, Linlin began to try to change her "workplace persona", guarding against arrogance and impatience, and learning with an open mind. Now, she is the "little business development expert" with the most positive attitude and the most efficient work in the team.

Not only did he receive unanimous praise from his colleagues, but he was also valued by his leaders and became the person in charge of a new project.

Jiaqi, a mother of a young child, has been working even harder since she had a child, but even so, she was still affected when her company laid off a large number of employees this year.

The child was crying for food and her husband was under great pressure, which made Jiaqi feel extremely uncomfortable and she fell into endless self-blame. The Bihe technique in Guiguzi mentions:

"The way of heaven and earth is to open and close. To open and close is to change the yin and yang, the four seasons, and to transform all things."

Our life cannot always be smooth sailing. When you are in a favorable situation, you should adopt the strategy of "捭" and take the initiative.

When you are in an unfavorable situation, you can adopt the strategy of "closing", which is a convergent strategy. If handled well, it is possible to turn the situation around and turn disadvantage into advantage.

After a period of contemplation, Jiaqi decided to change her mindset. Instead of making herself so anxious, it would be better to accept the current situation and turn pressure into motivation.

She began to take care of her children at home with peace of mind, carefully preparing three meals a day and filming short videos to post online. Unexpectedly, she attracted so many fans at once, and some manufacturers even approached her to place advertisements.

"Now I can make money and take care of my baby at the same time, I feel life is much easier." Jiaqi said.

Yes, sometimes people feel that they are against the wind, but in fact, as long as you turn half a circle, the direction of headwind will become the direction of tailwind. 30 unique skills of Guiguzi to quickly improve interpersonal relationships and avoid detours in life

You must read Guiguzi after you turn 25
There is a saying: Before the age of 25, being innocent is "naive", but after the age of 25, being innocent is "stupid".

The book "Guiguzi" tells us how to cultivate oneself into a person who is well-versed in human nature and has a clear-headed and optimistic outlook.

Knowledge may become outdated, but wisdom can transcend the long river of time and shine forever.

It is precisely because of this that many of the mental methods in Guiguzi are still talked about today:

"Your mouth is your Feng Shui; your heart is your morality", from Guiguzi: "The mouth is the gateway to the heart; the heart is the master of the spirit";

“If you are poor in a busy city, no one will care about you; if you are rich in a remote mountain area, you will have distant relatives.” This is also from Guiguzi: “If you benefit each other, you will be close; if you harm each other, you will be distant.”

"Really powerful people know how to hide themselves", which is also from Guiguzi: "The way of the sage is to hide and conceal"...

The list goes on.

However, for ordinary people, this Chinese classic is either too complicated to understand, or there is no orthodox academic explanation, or it is useless to them.

Yuehan breaks down Guiguzi's strategies into 30 life skills, combining historical stories with topics that modern people care about, so that you can learn, understand, and use them, and become a person with vision, strategy, and wisdom!