World Men's Health Day | Sisters, you may have found a "small" man!

What went through your mind when you saw this data from the World Health Organization?

According to statistics from relevant departments, before 2000, about 160,000 women in my country chose to commit suicide every year for various reasons, while the number of men was slightly less.

However, around 2008, the suicide rate of Chinese men began to gradually exceed that of women. Compared with previous suicide rate data for men, the rate of increase was even more incredible!

More detailed data show that in first-tier cities where job competition is fierce, the male suicide rate is much higher than in other small cities.

At the same time, the male suicide rate in some prestigious universities is much higher than that in ordinary universities.

According to the suicide rates of various countries compiled by the World Health Organization in 2016, except for a few countries, the suicide rate of men is much higher than that of women.

Such data not only surprises many people, but also deserves consideration by each of us.

October 28th is World Men's Health Day.

In my opinion, the biggest threat to men's health today is not tumors or cancer, but the invisible pressure put on them by society as a whole.

What exactly do men carry?

I'm afraid only men themselves know.

I think the reasons behind this can be divided into two aspects: one comes from society, and the other comes from oneself.

society

There is an old saying: "A man is the backbone of a family. If the man collapses, the whole family is like losing its support." This is a traditional concept from the old times, but this deep-rooted "wrong idea" has continued to this day.

The older generation in my family often talked about this topic when I was very young. They believed that when I grew up, I should become the only pillar of the family.

Of course, I have always believed that this is as it should be.

But after entering society, many people will find that it is not as simple as it sounds.

It is not easy for a foreigner to come to a big city from a remote mountain village to work hard, especially in a first-tier city.

On the one hand, you have to stay away from your relatives and live alone in a foreign place. On the other hand, you have to try your best to gain a foothold in this strange city. A "life-and-death struggle" with competitors is inevitable.

This may sound a bit "bloody", but in the eyes of some people, this is their daily routine. After all, it's all for the sake of survival and success.

I have a friend from another city. After working until late at night every day, he would pick up a celebrity biography and read their so-called "road to success" before lying down on bed to rest. Today's successful entrepreneurs Jack Ma and Liu Qiangdong are his two favorite people.

He always told me that one day he would be as successful as them and allow his parents and his significant other to live a good life without having to worry about food and clothing.

I looked at his big sparkling eyes, then at the half-eaten steamed bun in his hand, and replied with a smile: "Well, I support you! Come on!".

personal

A man's mental stress is often inflicted by himself. No matter how strong a string is, it will inevitably break if it is stretched too tight.

Sometimes it might be better to give yourself more time to rest and relax, and not to let traditional concepts such as "men should be self-reliant" and "men are the backbone of the family" constrain yourself.

Speaking of male mental stress, it reminds me of what an old senior who was a dozen years older than me said to me many years ago.

He is an executive of a large company. He is usually vigorous and efficient in his work. Every time when work tasks are reviewed, the performance of his team is always among the best in the company.

Later, when the Chinese New Year was approaching, the company held an annual meeting. He drank a lot of wine at the table and vomited a lot. I advised him not to drink anymore, but he replied: "Little brother, I don't drink much normally, because drinking makes me miss things. I work hard at work, and after get off work I have to go home to take care of the children and cook for my family. I'm tired! It's not easy to drink some wine to have fun, so don't persuade me!"

But from his eyes, I didn't see any happiness at all, only fatigue.

How much unknown suffering a successful man has to bear behind him is unknown, but what can be guessed is that no one can really understand his "bitterness" because he has become accustomed to hiding the pain in his heart.

Are men really as strong as they appear? I'm afraid it's quite the opposite. Deep down in their hearts, many men actually have a "little man" inside them. They are just not good at expressing themselves, or are unwilling to express themselves.

Sometimes, they also need a shoulder to lean on.

So sisters, don’t be “stingy” with your little shoulders, give these “self-righteous” little men a solid support!

Even if it is just for a few minutes, hugging them can give them the warmest strength.