The Secret of Love and Sex——25 Psychological Lessons for Understanding Intimate Relationships [Complete]_Sharan Hancock

The Secret of Love and Sex——25 Psychological Lessons for Understanding Intimate Relationships [Complete]_Sharan Hancock

Relationships are everything, everything is for relationships, especially intimate relationships.

Everyone has some beautiful imaginations about intimate relationships. The intimate relationships we desire are like containers that can "catch" us and allow us to gain maximum acceptance and support.

▶ However, how difficult is it to have a truly intimate relationship?

The latest data from the Civil Affairs Bureau shows:

In 2017, a total of 4.374 million couples went through legal divorce procedures, an increase of 5.2% over 2016. Since 2003, the divorce rate has been rising for 15 consecutive years.
A New York Times report states:

About 15% of couples have not had sex in the past six months. Google search statistics show that "sexless marriage" is people's primary complaint about marriage, far exceeding "unhappy marriage" and "loveless marriage".
The results of a sex survey conducted by Professor Pan Suiming of Renmin University of China show that:

Among men and women aged 20 to 64 in China who are married or cohabiting and still living together when the survey was conducted, more than a quarter (28.7%) have sex less than once a month.
Broken relationships, disintegration of marriages, sexlessness in marriages... too many people are unable to truly enjoy intimate relationships.

We either fail to meet the right person, or we love each other but torture each other. The road to an intimate relationship is bumpy and difficult:

☞ Why do I always feel insecure in relationships?
☞ Why do I care about him/her so much, but am treated as being controlled?

☞ Why am I copying my parents’ relationship patterns?

☞ What are the causes of triangle relationships and extramarital affairs? How can I protect my love?

☞ How can we truly love our children? Do you use your children to meet your own needs? Control him in the name of love?

☞ Why do we expect to receive love and tolerance from each other that even our parents have not given us, but when we don’t get it, we start to blame and alienate each other?

▶ What prevents us from having intimate relationships?

Creating intimacy is inherently a very difficult thing.

Wu Zhihong once said that building deep affection is a great adventure and a true heroic journey.

It requires you to awaken your desire for love, see the defenses against love, and believe in the existence of love from the imperfect reality of love.

Sharan Hancock, an internationally renowned gender and marriage therapist, proposed the relationship theory of "protective layer, trauma, and true self" to explain why we cannot achieve intimacy:

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Our heart has three layers: a protective layer, trauma, and the deepest layer is the true self.
The protective layer is too thick, and we cannot touch our own true self or the true self of others.

True intimacy is the encounter between two true selves.

The protective layer is too thick because there is too much pain.

We are afraid of these pains and dare not face them, so we use all kinds of self-deceiving methods to wrap up these pains and thus form a protective layer.

In other words, to establish an intimate relationship, you must address: the fear of loving, the fear of getting hurt, and the unwillingness to expose your true self.

In order to help everyone gain insight into intimate relationships, find the secrets of love and sex, and complete this adventurous heroic journey, we invited Sharon Hancock, an internationally renowned gender and marriage relationship therapist, to launch this psychological course online.

Teacher Wu Zhihong has participated in Teacher Sharan’s intimacy workshops many times. In his best-selling book, “Why Love Hurts”, more than ten articles’ content and inspiration all come from Teacher Sharan’s courses.

"Since 2010, I have taken many classes with Teacher Sharan. Teacher Sharan's style is relaxed, effortless and precise. The class includes wonderful explanations, as well as a lot of practice and meditation. Her on-the-spot treatment skills are particularly admirable."
“Teacher Sharan’s course on intimacy is the best course I have ever taken on intimacy. Since advertisements cannot use the word ‘best’, I can only use the word ‘excellent’.”
This online course is a combination of Teacher Sharan's own Western psychology theories, over 40 years of practical experience in the field of interdependence in intimate relationships, and the most successful concepts and methods of the "True Love Code" offline workshops in China for more than 10 years. It has been carefully polished into an online course and is now exclusively available on Huizhen Education, an international psychology platform. '

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