What to do if you are emotionally "sick"? There is always someone in this world who loves you, so don't let suicide become an option

Everyone knows that September 10th is the annual Teachers' Day, but few people know that this day is also "World Suicide Prevention Day."

Suicide and death have always been a heavy topic that people tend to avoid in traditional concepts, because death represents the end of life, which means complete separation from the world. Losing life means losing the love and hate in the world, and losing all the beauty in this world. In real life, with the rapid development of society, increasing pressure and gradually losing faith, depression, anxiety, and suicide are increasingly appearing in our world.

The World Health Organization defines suicide as "suicide is a self-inflicted behavior in which an individual consciously destroys himself and harms himself, often resulting in physical injury, and even death in severe cases, thus greatly endangering his own life and health safety as well as that of mankind." And it is important to note that suicide is no different from person to person. The act of suicide itself can affect all people, regardless of age, gender, socioeconomic status, nationality, etc. In most people's minds, suicide is terrible. It often wears a "horror mask" to show people, and they all think that suicide is the farthest away from themselves. However, according to statistics from the WHO, nearly 800,000 people end their lives by suicide every year in the world, and suicide is one of the top ten causes of death in any country. In my country, suicide is the fifth leading cause of death for the entire population, and among people aged 15 to 34, suicide is the leading cause of death. It seems that suicide behavior may exist around us. Since suicide is so terrifying and mysterious, let us unveil its hidden veil together.

Suicide is a way of dealing with life. When a person is unable to bear the troubles of life, he or she may choose this way to end life to relieve the pain. It is usually due to various complex reasons, including individual factors such as personality disorders, mental illness, depression, etc.; family factors such as family and marriage problems, disputes, inappropriate parent-child relationships, etc.; social and school factors such as deterioration of interpersonal relationships, professional difficulties, academic pressure, etc. These factors can lead to negative emotions and psychological changes, which we can simply understand as anxiety, fear and helplessness.

The first is anxiety. Freud mentioned in his "Introduction to Psychoanalysis" that "most neurotic patients complain that anxiety is the most painful thing for them... Anxiety problems are the core of various important problems." He believes that the generation of anxiety is closely related to the subconscious system and affects behavior and personality. The second is fear. Fear can shock thoughts and emotions. Constantly repeating one's terrible thoughts, gradually falling into despair and great sadness, and finally heading towards self-destruction and end. Finally, helplessness. When teenagers cannot control certain negative events in life and are unable to change the environment and complete tasks, they will show helplessness and great pressure, which will lead to various psychological problems, and serious ones will lead to suicide.

In real life, there are countless cases of suicide due to excessive stress, especially in a rapidly developing society. But it must be said that suicide is an escape from real life and a disrespect for life itself. But in the face of the terrible psychological changes that tend to suicidal tendencies, we become so helpless and weak. Therefore, how to conduct timely and correct suicide psychological intervention becomes particularly important.

Fortunately, suicide is not without flaws and traces. Signs of suicide can be found in a person's emotions, personality and behavior. First of all, emotionally, he will show an emotion that is inconsistent with the actual situation. The simple understanding is that there is no definite reason for his emotions, and he suddenly becomes depressed or happy. Secondly, "babies" with suicidal tendencies generally exhibit unusual behaviors and may exhibit behaviors that are inconsistent with the current situation, such as writing suicide notes and talking to people about things. Finally, individuals with suicidal tendencies generally have a personality that is contrary to the past, and sudden negativity is an obvious sign.

So when you find that someone around you has suicidal tendencies or someone talks about suicidal thoughts, you should seriously consider and believe what he says, because your careful attention may inadvertently save a brilliant life, a beautiful life. When someone talks about suicide, it may be a signal, or this person may be planning to put suicidal thoughts into action, so what should we do? First, establish a relationship, show your sincere concern for him, take the initiative to care about him and encourage him. Then listen carefully. A person who wants to commit suicide most needs someone to listen to his voice and feel his feelings. This is a kind of support. When you have to, ask for help immediately. When there is an immediate crisis, please do not abandon him. You can seek support from any consultable organization or trusted person, or call the police.

Of course, we should also learn to help ourselves. All the painful experiences that happen to us will be unpleasant experiences for everyone. When we need to carry the burden of our own world alone, don't forget to unload the burden and let yourself breathe. You can divert your attention through sports or travel to divert your attention and dilute negative emotions. Beautiful scenery can make people feel relaxed and happy and improve their mood. You can also vent by writing a diary, which often reaps unexpected results. When we record negative emotions, in the process of recording, we have slowly unloaded our defenses and burdens, and have conducted a profound analysis of ourselves. We must also learn to speak out the pain and fear in our hearts, learn to put down the burden, and breathe a sigh of relief. You can seek help from family and friends. Talking to the psychologist of the crisis center or the school counselor by phone can help relieve emotions and provide rescue. Warm reminder: National 24-hour free psychological consultation 010-82951332. If you are really suffocated by the pressure that you cannot bear in your life, call in time and seek help.

Finally, we need to know that we have countless options and suicide is not the only way to solve the problem.

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