International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women | Bravely Say “No” and Refuse to Be Harmed

"He's a PhD, and he didn't hit you, so it doesn't count as domestic violence, right?"

"How many times have I told you not to talk to strangers!"

Is this picture a shadow of your childhood?

Today (November 25)

Established by the United Nations

International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women

It is also known as the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.

This year also marks the 20th anniversary of the broadcast of "Don't Talk to Strangers"

This drama made "domestic violence"

Becoming a hot topic of social concern

Many victims also realized

“Domestic violence is not a family matter”

Feng Yuanzheng, who plays An Jiahe in the play

Over the years, we have been calling for

"Say no to domestic violence"

On March 1, 2016, the Anti-Domestic Violence Law of the People's Republic of China was officially implemented. The Civil Code of the People's Republic of China, which will be implemented in 2021, will also explicitly include the prohibition of domestic violence as a prohibitive provision for marriage and family. Domestic violence is not a "family affair", and fighting domestic violence is the common responsibility of the state, society and every family.

80% of domestic violence victims worldwide are women

Three types of behaviors to identify people with domestic violence tendencies

It is worth noting that domestic violence does not only occur between couples. Domestic violence can also occur between family members who are related by blood, marriage, adoption, or living together. Whether the perpetrator is a husband, wife, child, or sibling, it is considered domestic violence. Among the victims of domestic violence around the world, 80% are women and 20% are men.

Professor Kaiping Peng, Dean of the School of Social Sciences and Director of the Department of Psychology at Tsinghua University, proposed three points on how to identify people with a tendency to domestic violence:

The desire for control is particularly strong. Often saying things like "You have to do this, I ask you to do this, you have to do this" and so on.

They are very suspicious, for example, they always monitor your phone calls and always suspect you are having an affair.

Emotions are easily out of control. Often lose temper for no reason, slam the door and leave.

Most perpetrators have received higher education

People have the impression that domestic violence mostly happens to people with low education, but An Jiahe, who is one of the "Top Ten Youths in the City" and "Chief Physician of Thoracic Surgery" in the play, breaks this impression. Feng Yuanzheng said that in order to play this role well, he called the women's hotline to consult related issues, and the other party told him that among the perpetrators, people with higher education accounted for the majority.

Feng Yuanzheng, actor from Beijing People's Art Theater: The more educated a person is, the more brutal they are in committing violence. They not only beat people, but they may also use some "technology" or methods that they think are "satisfying."

Verbal violence and mental control are also domestic violence

Beware of emotional control “in the name of love”

Domestic violence is not only physical assault, but also verbal violence. In the play, An Jiahe blames his wife for her "improper behavior" which led to his violent behavior. In this regard, Professor Peng Kaiping, Dean of the School of Social Sciences and Director of the Department of Psychology at Tsinghua University, said that emotional manipulation is the first part of violence.

Peng Kaiping, Dean of the School of Social Sciences and Head of the Department of Psychology at Tsinghua University: All acts of violence, even aggressive behavior, must involve emotional manipulation. The two most common ones are: making the other party angry or fearful. In addition, there are repeated and unwarranted accusations, criticism, public humiliation, death threats, etc.

October 2020

Relevant regulations of Guangdong Province

Mental violence is also included in the scope of domestic violence

Explicitly insult, slander, spread privacy,

Threats, stalking, harassment

Such behavior is considered domestic violence

This year's Supreme Court work report also proposed

We need to explore ways to extend domestic violence prevention to

Pre-marriage, post-divorce and mental violence

But the fact is

Psychological violence is often hidden

In an intimate relationship

The existence of mental violence

It’s more common than we think

Do you hear these words often?

Do you often encounter these scenarios?

If the answer is yes

Be alert!

How to effectively call the police when encountering domestic violence?

How to stop domestic violence? Some people choose to call the police, which is also one of the correct ways. Wan Fei, a retired police officer from Jianli, Hubei, who has been a police officer for more than 30 years and the initiator of the "10,000 Homes Without Violence" project, reminded that calling the police is actually a "technical job" and you must master three points.

① Accurately state the location;

② Explain the key words, such as who beat you, who held you hostage, etc.;

③After calling the police, you need to get legal documents, such as administrative penalty decisions, domestic violence warnings, etc.

Wan Fei said that there are five major forms of domestic violence: beating, tying up, mutilation, restriction of personal freedom, frequent verbal abuse and intimidation. Regardless of whether there are any substantial consequences, as long as these behaviors occur, they are illegal and the victim can call the police.

The truth about domestic violence

Let more people know

There are only zero and countless times of domestic violence

Facing domestic violence

Don't hold back

Don't be silent

Don’t turn a blind eye

Whether as a victim or a bystander

We should all say "no" to domestic violence

Use legal weapons to defend legal rights

Let’s work together to create a harmonious family and a harmonious society!

Comprehensive sources: CCTV News, People's Daily, People's Daily Online, Beijing Women's Federation, China Women's News, Guangming Daily, Guangzhou Daily, China Youth Network, China Network, etc.