Paying someone to rate your looks? Don't take it too seriously

Recently, "rating appearance" has become a hot topic for many young people. Through searches, it was found that some platforms have paid services such as "rating appearance" and "appearance analysis", and the sales volume is not low. Why do these young people pay people to evaluate their appearance? It is understood that many consumers hope to get fair and objective appearance evaluation and suggestions, and some consumers also said that they are too unconfident about their appearance and need to be recognized by others.

People are actually familiar with this topic tag. Many years ago, a blogger became an Internet celebrity by using his unique language to evaluate the appearance of netizens. Nowadays, young people are willing to pay for "appearance evaluation" out of their own pockets. Perhaps this is the way young people nowadays relieve stress and please themselves. Young people are willing to pay to listen to strangers' evaluation of their appearance, and even actively seek suggestions for change. This is a psychological phenomenon of seeking self-confidence and longing for a sense of security, and there is no need to rush to deny it.

For people who are not confident about their appearance, paying for a relatively objective evaluation from strangers can be seen as an attempt to vent their emotions. From the scrutiny and evaluation from a third party, they can get a more realistic and specific description. An objective evaluation may help people who underestimate their appearance and have low self-esteem to improve their self-confidence, and thus help alleviate appearance anxiety.

Of course, this involves a series of complex psychological problems, which cannot be perfectly solved simply by relying on the so-called "appearance evaluation report". As people pay more and more attention to appearance, they care more and more about their appearance and appearance. It is not difficult to find that there seems to be a popular aesthetic standard: whiter, thinner, younger. There is nothing wrong with appreciating beautiful things. However, if you pay too much attention to appearance and use appearance as the criterion to measure everything, it is easy to lead to aesthetic deviation.

People's appearance is roughly equated with money, which is a distortion and alienation of aesthetics and is inevitably too narrow. Simply linking appearance with scores has caused the diversification of aesthetics to become monotonous, and some marketing hints have exacerbated many people's anxiety about appearance. In addition, some hot words related to appearance and figure that frequently appear on the Internet: "small face", "right-angled shoulders" and "A4 waist" have further escalated the contradiction. A media survey of colleges and universities showed that 59.03% of college students have a certain degree of appearance anxiety. Other data show that the number of new medical beauty institutions has remained high in recent years, and even some strange plastic surgeries have appeared. Under the influence of this atmosphere, we need to keep ourselves awake at all times and not blindly follow the trend.

Indeed, good looks are very attractive and can be recognized by people. However, it should be made clear that beauty does not have an objective and unified standard. It is subjective and relative, and there is no need to seek unity. The German philosopher Leibniz said: "There are no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same." It is not feasible to define a person's beauty with the same template, and it is even more impossible to define yourself based on others' words about your appearance.

Appearance is an aesthetic factor, but it is not the whole value of a person. It is understandable to rate appearance for fun, and there is no need to be too serious about the results. You must know that relying on the outside world's evaluation of appearance cannot really solve people's inner problems. The pursuit of appearance and beauty cannot be entirely limited to appearance, and we should accept the most authentic self in all aspects.

While adjusting your own mentality and increasing your self-affirmation, you should cultivate positive aesthetic values ​​and maintain a cheerful and optimistic state of mind. Instead of worrying about your own appearance, it is better to focus on cultivating your own personality charm, so that you can completely get rid of your appearance anxiety. Of course, to establish a correct aesthetic view, the society needs to work together to reduce its blindness and give people more systematic guidance.

Source: Guangming Online WeChat Official Account