What are the characteristics of a pua man, and what does online PUA mean?

Recently, the topic of PUA has once again become a hot topic because some female college students reported that they met pua men and that they were "PUAed". So, what does being PUA mean? What does the pua man mean in the mouths of female college students? Let's take a look at what PUA is.

What does Internet PUA mean?

The full name of PUA is Pick Up Artist, which literally means the art of picking up girls. It was originally created to help boys who are shy or have difficulty interacting with the opposite sex, so that they can communicate normally with the girls they like and establish normal romantic relationships.
At present, the definition of PUA has expanded from simple pick-up to the entire process of interaction between the sexes. PUA is a new interdisciplinary subject consisting of psychology and behavioral science.

Why is PUA scary?

With the popularity of the Internet and PUA, many schools have emerged in China, some of which have indeed helped many men learn how to pursue love. Some have gradually gone astray and become tools for some psychologically twisted people to manipulate and torture others. Due to the lack of sufficient commercial support and insufficient professional knowledge of practitioners themselves, PUA in China is now developing in the direction of fraud.

To put it simply, a pua man is a master at picking up girls and has first-class skills in picking up girls. Naive and naive girls can easily fall into the trap of a pua man. On the surface, PUA seems to be about intimacy, but in essence, the core of PUA is control.
Now that PUA has been introduced to China, it is called "Puzzle Science" by Chinese men.

The purpose of the pua man is specific and clear - to have an intimate relationship with girls quickly, and to judge his strength based on the number and quality of girls he has sex with. Some even took screenshots, recorded audio and even secretly filmed the chats during this process and made them into teaching cases, which were then posted online.
PUA men who cheat women for money and sex are considered low-level PUA. The ultimate goal is to break through all of a woman's defenses, control her body and mind, make her submissive and at his mercy - this is the highest level of PUA.

Five characteristics of PUA
1. Isolation: Trying to cut off all contact with the outside world
TA will disrupt the relationship between you and your family and friends, reduce or even cut off your original network of relationships, and gradually make you fall into a state of isolation. After dating him/her, you will find that your original social circle is getting smaller and smaller, especially your relationship with parents and relatives and friends is constantly being disturbed or even suppressed, so you should be careful.
2. Rule: If you don’t obey me, you don’t love me
He or she will assert his or her dominance over you by interfering in and managing the details of your daily life. For example, under the pretext of "for your own good", they will dictate what you should eat, what time you should go to bed, and what time you should get up. Their real purpose is to convey the following subtext: if you don't obey them, they don't love you. To avoid unnecessary conflicts, you can only follow these "rules". Over time, you will gradually lose yourself.
3. Tracking: Like an invisible chain, it locks you tightly
TA can monitor your whereabouts or check the dynamic information on your mobile phone, computer and social accounts. Over time, you will become more and more anxious, even like a frightened bird, and this worry did not exist before.
4. Devaluation: Establishing one’s own sense of superiority by hurting your self-esteem. There are many ways to devalue, some of which are to devalue your strengths. Or attack your weaknesses. If you don't do something well, he will call you stupid and brainless. In addition, he/she may loudly criticize and belittle you in public, hurting your self-esteem. All of this is intentional. After a long time, you will feel that you are really not good enough, and you will slowly lose yourself and let yourself be manipulated by TA.
5. Abuse: Destroying your body and will. Faced with unreasonable demands, if you do not comply, he/she will use physical violence to force you to submit. Of course, at the beginning, TA will not be so explicit, but will use low-intensity violence to confuse you. So-called low-intensity violence is attacking you by slapping, hitting, grabbing, pulling, pushing, etc. These little actions can make you feel threatened, but because there is no obvious physical harm, many times you are not sure whether it is abuse. When you gradually get used to his/her abusive ways and feel numb to them, more serious forms of violence such as slapping and kicking will be committed against you. At this time, you may no longer have the consciousness to resist.

Five characteristics of PUA men
1. Show off your wealth
The characteristics of a pua man are "rich" and "gentle". His circle of friends either has luxury cars and mansions or a "high-end" living environment, which can easily attract the attention of girls.
2. Every day is busy
The pua man always seems to be very busy. At the beginning, he will accompany you gently all the time. Once the pua man succeeds, he will become busy for no reason. He will not send you messages in time, it will be difficult to meet you, and he is unwilling to spend more time on you.
3. Becoming more and more indifferent. From the initial carelessness and inquiries to the later indifference, the PUA man will have completed the switch unconsciously. Compared with the initial care, warmth and greetings, it seems as if he is getting along with a stranger now. What's worse is that when you call them, they are playing missing.
4. Perfunctory. They start to treat everything perfunctorily. They don’t have the patience to coax you, nor do they have the patience to quarrel with you. “I was wrong, okay?” “Even if it’s my fault?” “Just consider it my problem”, these words become their mantras. Because my heart is no longer here, it doesn’t matter what you say.
5. Playing dumb. You know what you are saying, but you pretend not to understand. Your innocent look almost makes people believe it. No matter what you are talking about, he has to wait for you to explain and remind him for a long time before he pretends to suddenly understand something. His ability to play dumb is simply first-rate.

What are the tricks of pua men
1. When you first meet him, he behaves mysteriously and gentlemanly, which arouses your interest in getting to know him better. Most of the time, he appears disguised as some kind of high-ranking elite or professional.
2. A carefully decorated circle of friends. If you get to know a boy and look through his circle of friends, every post is close to perfect. I'm either working out, working hard or traveling. I love animals, food, and have a talent. I don't have any negative energy. Then please be vigilant!
3. Online chatting is either selling a persona or teasing your emotions. He tries to tease your emotions to make it seem like what he says is interesting, but in fact he just wants to pretend that he has an interesting soul. Selling a character actually further strengthens your liking for him.
4. Pretending to be an ambitious man or tall, rich and handsome, but actually having average or no financial resources at all.
5. Once they are found out to be wrong, PUA men have a core trick, which is to cry to gain sympathy or act pitiful.

How can girls guard against PUA men?

1. Affirm your own value. You must remember that only by affirming your own value first can you not let others' evaluations limit your feelings and truly enjoy love.
2. Set emotional bottom lines. The bottom line is a ruler that keeps you sober in a relationship. People who truly respect you and the relationship will not force you to break your bottom line.
3. Be wary of fast pace. Falling in love at first sight and getting married quickly sounds wonderful, but in reality there are very few examples of happy endings.
4. Learn to pause and reflect. The key is to detach yourself from the current relationship and reflect on the current progress and status of the relationship from an outsider's perspective.
5 Be wary of strangers you meet in unfamiliar environments. This does not mean that we should reject all kindness, but we should not be defenseless. It's time to break some fantasies of fate.
6. Seek equal status. Equality means that both parties in a relationship respect each other, major decisions are discussed with each other, the personalities of both parties remain independent, and no one is an appendage of the other.
7. Trust your intuition and sixth sense. Please face and trust your feelings.