Hotly discussed on the Internet! Primary school students were extremely bullied by classmates, and the West China Psychological Expert said this...

Bullying incidents against minors in Datong City

Aroused great public attention

The severity of the bully's behavior

It is hard to imagine that this was done by a minor.

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A child’s mental state and behavior are often a mirror of the family. If a child grows up in an environment that has long been subject to cold violence or even physical violence, he or she will often imitate the behavior of his or her parents, using his or her body or other advantages to satisfy his or her sense of control over power and the environment, or to find some outlet for his or her insecurity .

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If children are exposed to some bad information and groups and lack proper guidance, in order to establish a superior position in the social group and show their sense of belonging and group cohesion , they may gradually develop into school bullying. Coupled with the lack of sex education, it may develop into sexual bullying within school bullying .

Isolation, spreading rumors, insults, teasing, etc. also belong to school bullying , which may cause children to be unable to correctly understand and evaluate themselves, develop inferiority complex and autism, and become hostile to their classmates and teachers, and even breed violent behavior.

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This type of bullying is different from physical bullying in that it usually does not leave obvious marks on the body and is therefore difficult to detect.

Some parents may teach their children: "If you are bullied, bully back." This emotion is understandable, but if you blindly fight violence with violence, it will only intensify the conflict and even cause more harm. It is also easy for children to form a concept of the survival of the fittest : if they want to avoid being bullied, they have to become stronger and be able to bully others, thus sliding into another extreme.

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Moreover, if the child retaliates but cannot beat the abuser, it will easily aggravate the child's negative evaluation of himself and may make him feel that he is bullied because he is incompetent and too weak.

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So what can children do when they are bullied?

First, encourage children to stop the bully bravely and tell the bully to stop immediately with a firm and clear attitude. If the bully continues to attack verbally or physically, do not let the child blindly confront him. Instead, take self-protection measures in time to avoid the bully's attack, actively seek help from parents, teachers, and classmates, or even call the police.

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When children are sexually bullied, they may not dare to speak out because of shame or fear of retaliation. Children should be encouraged to talk about their experiences and bravely seek help from adults .

After being bullied, many children often experience:

1. Being taciturn, withdrawn and timid, suffering from insomnia, recurring nightmares, etc.;

2. Regressive behavior occurs, and the child's behavior seems to have "become smaller", such as not wetting the bed before, but suddenly wetting the bed now;

3. Increased vigilance and easy to be frightened;

4. Decreased academic performance, lack of concentration, and decreased memory;

5. Things and foods that he used to like cannot arouse his interest now;

6. Irritable and easily angry;

7. Changes in some behaviors, such as starting to drink, smoke, skip classes, etc.

Pay attention to changes in your child's emotions and behaviors, as these may indicate that your child may be experiencing school bullying, and parents should communicate with their children in a timely manner.

The causes of school bullying are diverse, with family, school, environment and other factors intertwined, so preventing school violence also requires the joint efforts of all parties.

1. First of all, you must tell your children that no matter when, where or why, it is not their fault if they are bullied , and they are not bullied because there is something wrong with them.

2. Communicate with your children more often, pay attention to the way you communicate, and respect their expressions . When your child tells you the whole story, don’t judge whether he is right or wrong, but express your concern and understanding.

3. Parents should not educate their children in a rough way for a long time, as this will easily make children lack a sense of security and develop a habit of submitting to violence. It is necessary to enhance children's sense of security , give them solid psychological support, and let them know that they are not alone and helpless.

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4. Provide a good family atmosphere . Children will unconsciously imitate their parents' language and behavior. An disharmonious family atmosphere and hostility among family members may have a certain impact on children.

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5. Schools can carry out various types of quality-building activities to enhance team cohesion among classes and students.

6. Carry out sex education appropriate for children’s age to enhance their self-protection awareness and ability to prevent sexual assault and sexual harassment.

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7. When you find abnormal emotions and behaviors in children, adults should pay attention to them. Even if you think the children’s description of the incident is biased or not completely true, as adults, we should also think and understand why the children say so? Are there other concerns or fears? Instead of saying to the children, “Look for your own reasons” or “Why are you the only one being bullied?”

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Preventing school bullying

It is inseparable from the joint efforts of multiple parties

But pay attention to the mental health of minors

It is always an important part

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Statement: This article is a medical-related educational popular science article. It does not involve specific treatment methods or medical behaviors and cannot replace hospital visits.

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