Letting your child become a "conspicuous bag" actually has such benefits?

Review expert: Chen Mingxin, national second-level psychological counselor, senior human resources manager

Have you ever seen a conspicuous bag in your life?

Although "显眼包" and "现眼包" have similar pronunciations, they have different meanings. The "显眼包" often do things that are beyond the norm. They often have the characteristics of making people take a second look at them, or even becoming the focus of everyone's attention. This type of people are not afraid of making a fool of themselves , their behavior is exaggerated and funny, and they have the "社牛" attribute and can bring some happiness to others.

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Imperfect people are cuter!

Why are “visible bags” becoming more and more popular?

This can be explained by psychology. The behavior of the conspicuous bag is consistent with the "upward-legged effect" or the "embarrassment effect" . This effect points out that when a smart person makes a small mistake unintentionally, it makes people think that he has the same shortcomings as others and makes mistakes, which becomes his advantage and makes people like him more.

Source | Science Popularization China

This effect was first proposed by American social psychologist Elliott Aronson , who conducted an experiment in which two successful people and two ordinary people were selected to be interviewed by a host, and the four interview videos were played to the test subjects.

The successful person in the first video talked about his brilliant achievements in the field he was engaged in during the interview and was very confident without any shy expression;

The successful person in the second video was a little shy on stage. When the host was introducing his achievements to the audience, he was so nervous that he knocked over the coffee cup on the table, and the coffee soaked the host's pants.

The ordinary people in the third video were not too nervous during the interview, but they did not say anything attractive either;

The ordinary person in the fourth video was very nervous during the interview. Just like in the second video, he knocked over the coffee cup next to him and wet the host's clothes.

Then, he asked the test subjects to choose their favorite speaker. Strangely, the test subjects' favorite speaker was not the perfect, excellent, successful person in the first video, but the one who knocked over the coffee cup in the second video. 95% of the test subjects chose him .

Source | Science Popularization China

This is because people who are too perfect will make others feel distant and alienated, while some small flaws will increase people's affinity and bring them closer to each other.

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Let your child become a happy "eye-catching bag"

In our lives, people with conspicuous traits usually behave very lively and funny in social situations. They are brave enough to express themselves, have confidence and unique charm.

This kind of social charm is not just a superficial phenomenon, but also an inner strength. While maintaining self-confidence, don't pay too much attention to other people's eyes, maintain a good social mentality, and have enough psychological resilience in the face of difficulties and setbacks.

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Think about it, in the daily education of children, most parents want their children to be successful and want their children to be perfect. Therefore, they always demand too much from their children, so that children are not enjoying learning, enjoying family and friendship, and enjoying happiness, but are just coping with learning, losing friendship and happiness.

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Finally, we will find that in the process of children's increasingly outstanding performance in all aspects, they may have also lost some of their happy mentality .

Perfection will make children isolated from the crowd and suffocate, while completeness can give children full and diversified development and make them stronger and stronger. Children with a higher level of self-acceptance are more likely to achieve self-identification and self-expression, and thus more likely to achieve positive emotional and behavioral regulation. The development of this self-identity is crucial to the growth and development of children.

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In fact, compared to perfection, we hope that our children have positive and good emotions, and grow up healthy, fulfilled and happy every day.

No matter what small shortcomings they have or what small mistakes they make, what we can do is to guide our children to learn to accept their imperfections and allow them room to grow gradually .

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But it is worth mentioning that the embarrassment effect does not mean that people deliberately make a fool of themselves to attract attention , but it advocates that people should not pursue excellence too much, and be able to accept themselves with a normal heart when they make mistakes accidentally.

The conspicuous bag has won the public's love by cleverly applying the principles of psychology through its own behavioral characteristics. The popularity of the "conspicuous bag" on the Internet also proves that people are increasingly willing to be the center of attention and are not afraid of other people's eyes.